DATING VIOLENCE and SEXUAL VIOLENCE

File Downloads

Abuse and Dating violence powerpoint = Mr. Corabi

Preventing Dating Violence before it starts
a powerpoint by Carla Odell (from "a Woman's place" non-profit)
click here for in class edited version

To keep relationships Safe handout  = Mr. Corabi

Preventing and overcoming abuse MP3 = Glencoe Health

SONG = It Stops with us = TCAR


WEBSITES and Web Based activities
to promote Comprehension, Enrichment and Remediation

VIDEO : break the silence = CDC
(dating violence prevention video and resources)

VIDEO = Study finds alarming reports of teenage Violence = CBS NEWS
March 2015

VIDEO = Report: Dating Violence Numbers rise = CBS news Millersville PA
Feb 2015

VIDEO: Reviving Ophelia as posted on Youtube by "Yaml" 2015
(2010 movie)

Spoken word = Relationshops/Dating Violence = posted on Youtube by
Yolanda Yoima

LOVE IS RESPECT:  call to stop dating violence =
National Domestic Violence Hotline

It's your sex life Relationships= MTV
includes videos

Teen coalition against rape = TCAR
information for girls and guys,
quizzes and VIDEO

A THIN LINE Digital Use vs Digital ABuse = MTV

COMMENTARY = Rape Culture = MTV

ARTICLE:  Does the Twi-light Saga actually promote
Dating violence in today's youth? =  college voice

ARTICLE:  Protecting teens from Dating Violence

PA Statutory rape laws = TCAR

Detailed Sexual Laws for PA = PA General Assembly
(chapter 31)

Men against Sexual Violence = MASV
RELATIONSHIPS (in general)

File Downloads

Relationships: family and friends ppt = Mr. Corabi

Building the "perfect" partner = "A woman's place"

WORKSHEET FROM "building the perfect partner"

ARTICLE|: Love vs Infatuation vs Obsession = Womansavers.com

LOVE vs LUST graphic

Healthy family relationships MP3 = Glencoe Health

Strengthening family relationships MP3 = Glencoe Health


WEBSITES and Web Based activities to promote
Comprehension, Enrichment and Remediation

It's your sex life relationships = MTV
includes videos

TEENS and Relationships = ASHA

Article: What are healthy vs abusive relationships = Teen Health

facts vs myths about Divorce - Discovery Health
Relationships NOTES

Relationships come in many types:  Family and Friends are the main categories but then
there are so many sub-categories:

Family = Primary Family = Parents, Siblings, Grandparents,
Secondary Family = Aunts/Uncles cousins

Today, “steps” and “halfs” like step parents, step brothers/sisters, half brothers/sisters,
are more prevalent than ever before

Friends can include classmates, friends, close friends, best friends, acquaintances.  

Then there is the “other” category which includes mentors, coaches, teachers, youth
group leaders, pastors, etc.  

In addition, the word “friend” can be used synonymously with “contact” when talking
about social networking (like facebook).  

It ends up being confusing:

In terms of this section, we are using the terms relationships to only include person to
person LIVE interaction.   

There are 7 things needed for a relationship to be successful.  
They are,

1)        Communication
2)        Honesty
3)        Friendship
4)        Trust
5)        Loyalty
6)        Respect
7)        Love

For more details, you must attend the "7 things" classes or purchase the book.

In terms of Love however, it is very important to make sure we separate Love from
Sex and Love from infatuation

Love vs Sex:  Let’s face it, teens are looking for love.  They may call it respect, but
they are looking for love.  They want to feel wanted, accepted, and parts of groups.  
They do things to fit in even though they are trying to be different.  

In terms of physical attraction and affection, once a teen creates a relationship of
boyfriend/girlfriend and become a couple, sex is a natural part of the discussion….
should we do it?  When should we do it?  How long should we be together?  

Bottom line is…SEX is not love.  Sex is Sex..PERIOD.  

Now, sex is a gift that allows 2 people that love each other to express their emotions
together, however, it is only 1 WAY in order to express love.   Some world views
preach wait until marriage.  Young people that think they “should have sex” with their
partner or “that he/she loves me and I love them” so you do it, are mistaken.  

IF THEY REALLY LOVE YOU, THEY’LL WAIT FOR YOU

REAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE BUILT FROM THE INSIDE OUT, NOT THE
OUTSIDE IN…Sex is secondary to what really matters.

In addition Love vs infatuation is a confusing topic.  Ask yourself this when it comes to
your boyfriend or girlfriend…Do you love them or are you in love?  Is it love or
infatuation?  

Chances are…you probably do love your partner but aren’t really in love.  FOREVER is
a really long time……PLUS, Many times, what teens think is love is really
infatuation…which, sometimes borders on obsession. That’s un-healthy!    

Advice….not only should you build relationships from the inside out not the outside in,
but you should take them slow…..if your partner really loves you, they will accept you
for your strengths and weaknesses and look what’s inside that makes you you….not
focus on the superficial, physical on the outside. They will also trust you and give you
space to hang with friends and not be obsessive.   

Dating Violence

There are generally 4 types of violence:  physical, verbal, emotional or sexual.

Dating violence may have parts of all 4:

Physical violence examples:  boy friend grabbing your arm and pulling you into a car or
hitting you because you did something that “mad him mad”

Verbal violence examples:  boy/girl friend yelling at their partner in front of others,
cursing at, threats

Emotional violence examples:  girl friend using guilt to get what she wants such as “I
guess you’d rather hang with your friends then me” OR “ I though you loved me” or
“if you really loved me you’d…” Or coercing someone to have sex that really does not
want

Sexual violence:  broken into 3 categories:

Sexual harassment:  using words of a sexual nature towards a person who does not
want to hear them OR at an inappropriate time

Sexual assault:  touching someone in places of a sexual nature that they do not want to
be touched

Rape: physically forcing someone to have sex.

In terms of dating violence, physical, verbal and emotional violence are much more
common practices although date rape is also a major concern.

See powerpoint on dating and domestic violence fro ways to protect yourself

How to apply it to your life:  

1) Never allow someone to force you to do anything

2) Once a person grabs you, defend yourself...Remember, the 5 stages of self defense
are being aware of what's around you (don't deny), Try to avoid un-safe situations,
prevent situations from getting worse, if needed, use physical confrontation, then, use
follow up (talk to a parent/trusted adult)

3) Don't place yourself in any situations where you are in private with someone you
just met.
EXTRA CREDIT:

Book Report Child Abuse---Read "A child called it"
by David Peltzer.  (Corabi has the books for you if
you want to read it).  It is VERY sad and a true
story.  Do a book report and get 100 pts towards
project extra credit
Human Sexuality Unit
Relationships and Dating Violence
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